Tink is an ordinary mumma attempting to live an extraordinary life, with purpose. She is not perfect. Life is not perfect. Tink feels that life is rough, passionate, spontaneous and full. Following your passions is tantamount. Even if you make mistakes along the way, you learn from them. Tink is making the most of loving living a life on the Mornington Peninsula. Exploring the beaches and hidden local treasures. With an eye for fashion, this bourgeois bohemian has scanned the globe and the local community to collect the unique and exceptional, like herself.
Tink recently returned to full time work. She work has worked as an educator and mentor in Early Childhood for nearly 20 years. Never pretending to be perfect, but always happy to help, Tink is the kind of person you feel comfortable enough (when feeling desperate) to call at 2 am, because you need help settling your infant. Even though she seen you for seven years, you know she is fiercely loyal and supportive of those around her. Tink has had a fair share of adventures and anxieties around parenting and children- and it’s only fair that she shares them with others. Tink imparts her insights in regard to nourishing children, raising gentlemen and going on crazy mamma adventures.
Married to Aaron, you’ll often hear her refer to him by his pet names, ‘Hussy’ and ‘Pan’. Tink’s hussy (short for ‘husband’, not immoral) is a talented actor who was in and out of work when they met. He was juggling auditions and making ends meet between roles by managing restaurants across Melbourne and the Mornington Peninsula. Tink will tell tales from time to time on why he never cracked that major role leading to the glitz of Hollywood because he is completely selfless and has no ego. Tink does however, from time to time, badger him for having no ego and being completely selfless (and also not being able to read her mind). Tink describes her hussy as an absolute treasure like finding a diamond in the rough, often joking she’s the only woman in the world who actually loves her husband. No husband bashing (well, maybe occasionally), and certainly no dad bashing. Tink certainly appreciates his love of good coffee when she wakes up every morning with a coffee from her personal barista. Aaron is voted most likely to offer you a great coffee or a cocktail that he designed (depending on what time of day it is) when you enter the house. Yep, she thinks he’s a keeper.
Tink’s devotion to education and children pushed Aaron to build on his Acting degree (which he had never picked up after graduating) to complete a Dip Ed in Primary Education. She passionately wanted hussy to get satisfaction from a job, whilst adoring the idea of spending their school holidays together. So between them, they should have the whole parenting thing down, right? At least until they’re boys are thirteen. Then they’re both stuffed, especially if Tink’s teenage years are anything to go by.
They raise three children together. The eldest a young teen, Tadhg, from a previous union; delightful Dante the brave heart warrior, who was born with holes in his heart, even though it’s as big as Phar Lap’s and baby Inigo who poops rainbows. Everyone just calls him Iggy.
The three boys are very different souls and totally individual. From Tadhg, the placid, creative fellow who likes to please, to the wild and eccentric ways of Dante. Born with a broken heart, Dante has the most love to give and will charm the socks off the biggest grump and frequently tries. He gleefully accosts random strangers in public, much to the chagrin of his parents. If you have been on the Peninsula and not been approached by Dante for a chat, it may be that you don’t look random enough. Tink’s path to motherhood was not straight forward, with many adventures (and misadventures) to discuss. Dante was an IVF ISCI first time fluke. Later, looking for a sibling and clutching at straws, they were eventually lucky a second time with their littlest bundle of joy, Iggy. After an early entrance to the world, at seven months, he’s off. After Dante, his parents keep telling Iggy that he will be ‘the sensible one’. But only time will tell…
The first step in her journey to become a ‘blogger’ was when Tink started to talk openly about IVF amongst friends. She was soon shocked by the number of people who opened up to her about their own journey. They also had been afraid to talk about what they were going through. This fear of sharing was challenged again when the couple’s dear Dante was born with congenital heart defects. Tink wondered, ‘Why does nobody talk about this stuff?’ She found a community of heart mums on instagram who supported her through that first year of Dante’s life who normalised what the family were going through.
Tink learned not to be ashamed to share her story since talking about ‘stuff’ can be so cathartic to all those involved. Tink notes we all go through adversity. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Most of these things are not spoken of; addiction, mental illness, infertility, miscarriage, terminal illness, parenting mistakes, and abuse, the list is endless. It got to the stage where she couldn’t contain her story anymore. Tink aims to create an emotional autobiography as a means to help others on their journey. She remarks that many people rail against social media for painting a deluded image but people do this in their day to day passings, without the help of technology. It also has the power to connect and inspire. Hoping to go deeper than the insta-perfect life we project, Tink wanted to keep it real and share her experiences and thoughts, in the hope of empowering others. Even if it is to simply join the conversation. Whilst she’s happy to share most things, she won’t give everything away, she’s the classic, scorpion of the zodiac that we are all fascinated by.
It’s a family affair, whilst Tink has her say, you’ll find Aaron will get a word in edgewise, from time to time. And Dante’s antics deserve their own comic strip, believe me. You’ll be delighted to read the insights into these little gentlemen’s minds.
Together they share stories of a life well lived, not always perfect, not preachy, full of gratitude, unfinished projects and adventure. What you’ll read is raw, real life, not fantasy with only the occasional instagram filter used, just to improve Tink’s complexion.