An open postcard from our annual family summer holiday to PM – Scott Morrison

Welcome to 2020. A time to celebrate and rejoice in a new decade: new beginnings. Australia a great place to bring up children you say, when on New Years Day, the air quality in our capital city is 20 times hazardous levels.

Your message as PM to our country;

“We have faced these disasters before and we have prevailed, we have overcome. That is the spirit of Australians, that is the spirit that is on display, that is a spirit that we can celebrate as Australians.”

Aww Scott, are you suffering smoke inhalation and lack of oxygen to the brain?

Our sunburnt country is choking, we are choking. We need you to panic! What will it take?

Our koalas, a national symbol native only to Australia are endangered, our people and our children are endangered.

Who are you trying to ‘bloody hell’ fool with your patriotic New Year’s speech.

We hear you, and are left to wonder if you are really that naive or genuinely taking advantage and the piss of the “Aussie spirit”. ‘Aussies will suck it up and work harder.’ That is your message. It seems the Aussie spirit is convenient excuse to deny all culpability. I forgot to count how many Australian flags you had in the background at the time when you played the Aussie Card. Unfortunately, pulling together to survive is not an appropriate message for a leader of the nation.

These fires are unprecedented, there is nothing like them etched in our history. We know we must change our ways, but why won’t you join us? OK Boomer, yes you Scott. Where’s your Australian spirit?

39 years on this sunburnt country, someplace between a generation X and a millennial living and hearing the yarns through two of the worst bushfires: Ash Wednesday (1983) and Black Saturday (2009). This is that on steroids and can’t be put down to some cyclical weather pattern. Yeah sure I was skeptical on climate change as we headed into welcome 2000, of course the oceans are rising. What happens when you get in a bath, I convinced myself.

Never have I heard yarns or seen darkness at 11.00am like I did on New Years Eve 2019, where the NSW fires were joined by Victorian. The sky apocalyptic red, on the NSW south coast was this real life or was I infact holiday-ing on Mars?

Where had we taken our beloved wildlings? A small country beach side town holiday to support a community and family business or Hell? Was this the end?

11.30am our middle sized wildling aged 6, questioned why we hadn’t served dinner and prepared to put on his Pjs. Confused, he set foot outside and looked up to the sky and put his arms out to catch the burnt gum leaves, falling like rain.

Everyone had packed up. Most had left even though the advice was to stay put. All roads to major cities closed.

Hours of darkness passed, Our two year old awoke from his midday sleep and wanted breakfast, he thought it was sunrise.

They were scared, the hair on their arms stood on end. On some primordial level everyone was beyond anxious: fearful. The smoke was stifling oppressive.

5 million hectares of burnt land, apocalyptic red skies, thousands of family homes, live stock and native animals lost. At the only open shop in the area, I heard the farmer in front grabbing supplies and preparing himself to kill all his livestock. The shop owner just nodded silently.

Seventeen people dead since October, A wife of a volunteer firefighter has to bring their first and only child into this world alone.

As we flee for home, our family car covered in black soot and ash, there’s a six year old boy, sitting in the back with his two brothers who just wrote a letter to his dog and grandparents praying they have blue skies where they are, for he can’t remember when his sky above was last blue.

Reluctant to acknowledge mistakes, stubborn is Australian made. It’s okay to change your stance that’s how we grow. This is beyond being a political issue when it is a matter of survival. Useless talk of carbon credits and future targets cannot begin to solve the mess we are in. It’s no wonder the fire warning signs that line the freeway now go up to ‘catastrophic‘.

Sincerely

Mumma of three wildlings

– The next generation who inherit the mess to clean up

P.S When we stopped by your place, that middle wildling he noticed you were missing two flags. Now I know you just spent a few million on your plane so understand that you might be feeling a tad short after Christmas. I heard your local MP can provide you with both an Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Flag. But yeah, I guess if you don’t have time, it was only a 6 year old that noticed…

DEVOI – Natural and Considerate Feminine Wear.

DEVOI is an independent slow-fashion house, designed in Melbourne, Australia. Getting rave reviews, challenging fast fashion with their limited and sustainable timeless classic pieces.

By Rhianne and Cheryl

The pair met through a mutual friend at Siglo, a classy rooftop terrace bar establishment in the heart of Melbourne. On this particular faithful night Rhianne indulged in an elegant St Germain Spiritz in hand while Cheryl was on the Evian. This once upon time wasn’t a publication made over .05, it was written from their hearts. A story and dream that had been running through their veins awaiting the universe to align.

Rhianne originally from the UK, is a trained fashion designer. In the height of the glory of achievements she worked in London with some major fashion houses (Erdem, Mary Katrantzou, Qasimi), but something still yearned in her heart. Like any girl with an ambitious soul, she dreamed of one day releasing her own designs.

Cheryl is a lawyer, a dreamer of colour and aspired to creating colourful patterns.

Together DEVOI was born.

The duo, empowered women with a soul to envy. DEVOI captivates conscious and considerate fashion. The slow fashion motto where the values reach for the stars. They are committed to countering the damaging effects of mass-consumption that results from the world of fast fashion.

At every stage of development and production, DEVOI aims to improve both ethical and environmental outcomes. Their timeless and sophisticated pieces proudly assert a zero fabric waste policy.

The Dorothy from the ‘Moon Garden’ collection. The highest of quality, the stunning linen midi dress features a classic crew neck, gathered waist seams. And you guessed it, the dream dress has pockets. The bodice modestly lined with cotton.

The print ‘Scalavendar’ a warm mustard back with alluring scattered lavender. Hand painted in-house and digitally printed using high quality, sustainably considered inks and dyes. Dorothy’s classic sophistication will take you through all the seasons; from the corporate world of meetings, a dinner date, to the alleys of an inner city hipster bar crawl of gigs over beers with friends and then all the way to the back beaches in summer barefoot, wild and free. She’s a multitasker the unexpected forever staple dress.

DEVOI advocates a vision of femininity that is distinctive and effortlessly striking. The DEVOI signature style is based upon original prints featured in flattering silhouettes and made from natural fibres. The fusion of these elements creates beyond-trend pieces that appeal to the woman who dresses to be remembered. – DEVOI

https://www.devoishop.com

Follow this creative duo https://instagram.com/devoiclothing?igshid=7bmrtdn7xq52 on Instagram

Accessories:

Fishnets – Alannah Hill

Studded belt – Ivy Wilde

The Campaign, cap – Fallen Broken Street

Black Swan leather jacket – Tulle & Batiste

 

This little label really resonated with the core of my heart.

Much love, hope and madness

Tink xxx

NAIDOC week – Lesson of Respect. Please don’t climb Uluru

Keeping it raw, I promised to be authentic on this journey, with the initial point of delving into this world of blogging to be brave and have tough, yet important conversations, that nobody wants to talk about. So, sometimes that means I get a little preachy, I’ll own that. So be it. Because there’s this thing that I’ve become increasingly aware of; ignorance is bliss. Like a buffer, it has the danger of encircling (and sometimes encapsulating) our ego. As we grow we ought to learn more and become better at being human. But mostly there’s this ego blocking any new learnings. Also known wisely as the era of entitlement.

How entitled are you? Now that is a pretty difficult thing to measure. Sure, do you let go of those insignificances? Do you roll your eyes and laugh at your own ‘first world problems’? But there’s a flip here? Not knowing is one thing. But knowing and not using your voice measures equally as ignorant. Like the old adage, if you’re not part of the solution…

Open your heart, eyes and soul and you may just learn a thing or two in this marvel of a world, which will have you at your knees.

It just happens to be NAIDOC week and I just happen to be dropping my first born (my second heart beat) in Central Australia for an outback adventure made of dreams. In awe, while our boots stand covered in the magnificent red dirt at the base still kilometres away of her majesty Uluru. In the season of Wari – to us humble white folk that’s the cold season of winter. Even during the cold season the temperature hits 27 degrees on our magical acquaintance. The sunshine: epic. Yet here I was again, all starry-eyed, not a cloud in sight, amongst the blue skies. At this point, I’d only just arrived at the Sunrise and Sunset Carpark.

This year’s NAIDOC week theme: Voice. Treaty. Truth. The key elements of the Uluru statement from the heart. The statement yearns to see the voice of Aboriginal and Indigenous Australians recognised in the nation’s constitution and paths the way to a Makarrata Commission.

Uluru is sacred to the Yankunytjatjara and Pitjantjatjara Anangu, the Aboriginal people of the land.

She is in every Visit Australia campaign and whilst the tourist flock to see her, many seem to want to tick it off as one, of many rocks to climb. They simply can not respect ‘she’ is a living cultural landscape that of which is considered sacred to the owners of the land. Yankunytjatjara and Pitjantjatjar people tell us spirits of the ancestral beings continue to reside in Uluru making the land a deeply important part of their rich Aboriginal cultural identity.

I was raised from a family of great story tellers with Pinocchio noses, where exaggeration is all part of the family traits handed down. Sometimes in an extended family yarn it’s the only way to get attention and to be heard it would seem. But this time I don’t know what exaggeration I could possibly add to make you listen; The Anangu people are said to be the oldest culture known. That’s 60,000 years old according to science. Their majesty if you may, more than a temple, ULURU was formed by different ancestral spirits and is comparable to- let’s say, any other sacred site in the world. (She’s kind of a really big deal, forget anything god or human made). And unlike entering a pyramid, for instance, you are not setting foot on a artefact of a culture that no longer exists.

After the announcement that the Uluru climb would be closed for good this coming October, a massive surge in the number of tourist have arrived like seagulls rampaging their garbage throughout the land and are climbing her, with absolutely no respect to the local laws of the Anangu. The race was on. However, on arrival, I was taken aback by the desperate array of very clear and endless signage throughout the park and pleas written on every tourist document of the area from both the traditional owners the Anangu people and National Parks that are blantantly ignored. There isn’t a sign or piece of documentation anywhere near Uluru that would give you the impression that it’s actually okay to climb. In fact unless you knew otherwise you just wouldn’t dare.

As we continued on our journey and approached her majesty Uluru at a closer scale, I was utterly gob-smacked by the number of tourist climbers ignoring all the plastered warnings and pleas not to climb. I’m not speaking your regular sprinkles, this was Uluru jam topped with hundreds and thousands.

To highlight the injury of insensitive amongst white Australians I note more than a handful of assumptions I’ve had in passing conversations about our trip? Are you headed into Uluru before the ban?

Tjukurpa is the foundation of Anangu a somewhat complex to comprehend culture which refers to the creation time when ancestoral beings created the world as we know.

There’s a legend, if you disrespect her or disturb her – she carries a curse. The era of the ignorant and entitled. The bucket list of accomplishments during a lifetime. You climb her, you can probably tick off a few other things in the process, none of them I’d want to be remembered for.

I read the National Park pamphlet out aloud to my six-times-around-the-sun, wise, second heart beat, ‘Payla – welcome to Anangu land. This land was created by the creation ancestors.’ He listens Intriguingly as I continue on… Please don’t climb Uluru. That’s a really sacred thing your climbing.

He gasps, ‘Those people are all disrespectful inappropriatators!!! Why are they breaking aboriginal law?’

‘I don’t know, Sweetheart. Some people don’t have kind hearts. Something terrible must have happened to them.’

‘But why?’ he continues… He’s always trying to work out in his little mind the wrongs and rights in the world.

It is at this point, that I offer, ‘I wasn’t always aware.’ Something happened in my very white Australian upbringing. A decade ago, I was blessed with a step son who identifies as Aboriginal. I’ve had to challenge and unpack all those stereotypes and work out why Australians can’t get reconciliation right for him. Also, I wasn’t brought up with a religious influence of any kind, yet I’d still never see it fit to be disrespectful in a church. See where I’m headed? This is about cultural respect and challenging your own damn sense of entitlement.

Sure, the ban will come into effect in the next few months, so that may be a forgone conclusion. And, in some ways, this ban may have been a factor to understand the increase in numbers wanting to stand at the top of a big rock, take a selfie and to have bragging rights, ‘I got up there while you still could.’ But maybe there is hope for the future. Even though the traditional owners want to take away the climb, they do not wish to ban visitors from this sacred place. Without the superficial climb, hopefully people who come to this place will be able to explore the culture and significance.

Certainly, with fascination, I circumnavigated her. This I feel is the best opportunity to connect to Uluru and the surrounding land. The walk is not merely a wander around a big rock. Like a magnet, drawn. We explored the many fascist of her; from the caves, the art and the stories around them. Passed boulders, enchanted, towering white gum, waterways to waterholes. It’s hard to describe the changing colours as I went on my journey and the breathtaking sunset where the colour encapsulated you, assaulting your senses. It truly is a sacred place, like no other, that I will not forget visiting. I will come again in the future.

In the meantime, as my wise, six-times-around-the-sun, heart beat offers, I ask that you stop in your tracks and reconsider becoming an unknowing ‘Disrespectful Inappropriatator‘.

Rosettes by Tulle and Batiste –

I’ve been somewhat quiet, and withdrawn. Is it winter or something brewing deep inside? Winter winds keep me harboured inside. So here I haven, in uggies and filled with ennui. Rosette’s seems to be helping me along.

All the while, another retrograde is storming towards us and all those ambitious, big emotions are bubbling to the surface. Just what I needed. Rosette’s passionate, bold and empowering spirit is running deep through my veins and warming that icy winter heart. Like an old friend turning up on your doorstep, demanding to take you out for a catch up, it’s just what you need. She’s bold, bright. Some may say, on the edge of a born leader. She is all the wilder, louder, wiser, braver and more intense then any wild cat ever before her. Whilst on the verge of a better and greater existence, Rosettes encourages the flame of a lustfully wild and enchanted heart to continue on their journey.

Tulle and Batiste, the glowing flame, burning in vehement passion and gratitude of a balanced, conscientious life, well lived. There’s a beautifully etched, heartfelt message of the importance of a Sacred Sisterhood coming out of this thoughtful, slow-fashion brand. It’s connecting and liberating women in all circles of life. The rise of the feminine within our circle aiming to heal our world and deliver our most empowering message: All are welcome.

Once again, the incredibly talented designer of Tulle and Batiste; Miftahul Jannah and her dream team have created a storm of obsessive, wild love in all our bohemian hearts, with this collection. This is Rosettes; the first winter collection. From the bold and striking turquoise waters of Blue Moon to the deep moody purple hazes of Purple Potion and the more neutral, warm hues of the vintage browns of Pecan, it brings these elements together with effortless style and grace.

Rosettes is where the entrenched lovers and the deeply wild hearted feminist leopard print advocates come to meet the free spirited, floral dreamers. The energy is raw, in sync, intuited- divine.

It’s very fitting to my mood- or moods, as the case may be. A hybrid of the bold, sassy, feminist rocker, animal prints, when the storm within means business to the softer floral dream of a calm, gentle, retro, ‘make love, not war’ spirit, who needs to passively negotiate. Rosettes has the unique ability to be both, aiding the inner (and outer) balance.

The styles are thoughtful, whilst embracing the finer detail. Lace panels and trimming, tassels with tinker, gypsy bells. Multi-wear pieces; dresses that unbutton to be worn as a over jacket or duster, sleeves that roll up from long sleeves to shirt. The avid pocket groupies will praise that pockets are not a fantasy dream.

Maya Cape Maxi Dress – Blue moon
Dreamy maxi style dress details a flutter bib, elastic waist for shape and ultimate multi-wear function of unbuttoning to a duster or short sleeve over trench.
Marinus Shirt – Rosettes in Blue moon
Everyday Men’s style casual or party shirt styled with a chest pocket.

Gazelle Shirt Dress – Purple potion
Sassy shirt style dress details tie waist belt, hip pockets, billowing style 3/4 sleeves, ohh you wanted an actual shirt dress, no worries these babes are designed to unbutton and roll up to show us what your guns are made of. Gazelle unbuttons all the way down the front to a short kimono or duster jacket like robe if desired..
Maya Maxi Skirt – Pecan
Eat all the damn cake, elastic waist with waist tie, The Maya maxi skirt details those cute tinker-bells on the tassel ends of the waist tie so your children won’t lose you, she gracefully buttons down the front centre while falling ever so elegantly and bam! yes more hip pockets…

Layla Playdress – Blue Moon
The perfect casual dress, bib boho
insert panel detail, elastic waist for shape and more of the most wanted: hip pockets teamed with fluted 3/4 sleeves which also magically fold up to cap sleeve length with hidden inside tabs. Ohh I nearly forgot wait for it.. Layla unbuttons all the way down the front and there you have it friends, Layla is your next outer wear piece.
Leather Frill Jacket – Black Swan collection
Every self-confessed bourgeois bohemian needs one, staple, leather jacket of greatness. The tassel fringing edges rock and roll and that bold sass every Black Swan holds within. Soft Buttery Leather, an iconic piece your hearts been yearning for since that first festival you attended in your teens. Details biker style zips, buckles and pockets.

Khaya Wrap Frill Dress Pecan
The gracious and wildly romantic show stopper of Rosettes. Wrap style maxi dress with long slightly billowed sleeves and elastic cuffs. Khaya details feminine lace trimmings, pockets for the advocates. The tiered skirt cascades with elegance and will take you barefoot in awe of beach sunsets to the cocktail bar.
Long Sleeve Terra Cardigan – Taupe
The dreamy all round boho throw on long length cardi. The cotton and rayon blend oozes cozy winter comfort, buttons down the front with a waist tie belt, all a while you realise how hell bent we are on pockets.
Eagle Boots – Antique Brown
Vintage inspired woodstock meets biker style ankle boots, quality leather the Eagle details a cuban style wooden stacked block heel, every 70’s babe dream. The brass buckles and studs edge on a ride down the highway.

Shop Rosettes directly - Free International Shipping
 www.tulleandbatiste.com

Share your dream styling of the Rosette’s collection on Instagram and don’t forget to tag @tulleandbatiste or hashtag #tulleandbatitse Jannah and her devoted team adorn seeing their devoted customers swoon from daylight to moonlight.

Much love

Tink xx

You Can Sit with Me – by Rocco and Mia

The delightful Mariella from Rocco and Mia is an everyday mum between sitting down to do dance hair buns and stage makeup, to Kinder and School drop offs, just doing her thing. The queen of unisex children’s t-shirts. There’s never an ego. She’s gracious, never pushy and has a heart of gold. A gentle soul, making t-shirts on the side, whilst nourishing her three young children.

Her latest campaign is something else.

Something that sits well with many of us. Although many shirts out there have a meme, this one holds a message:

YOU CAN SIT WITH ME by Rocco and Mia

Kader – Instagram @just.the3of.us

In a self-oriented, fast paced world that waits for nobody, egocentricity isn’t just a childhood phase anymore. It’s tendrils grow. Fuelled in adolescence by selfies, questions of self-worth and the search for self-fulfilment. We find ourselves breaking free of this past the salad days of our 20’s, and flourishing. Then, before we know it, we are extending t’wards our 40s. Somehow still, believing we cannot be- enough. And so we are left wanting more. We are facing generations of entitlement.

Amongst all the madness in the world, we have an epidemic of mental illness. Even mental illness in children. It just doesn’t sit well with me. Children facing bullies and trolls and the overall feeling of just never being enough, even as children. The pressures of modern life and always having to fit inside a box.

Kindness. Most will say they see it as a given. The only path to tread. Yet,when in need of empathy and kindness while shuffling on in a state of despair, you may feel that it is a road, so rarely travelled. It’s heartening to know that there are many out there, empowering their children to tag along and understand it is certainly worth a hitchhike down that road. Invariably, to also understand how Kindness, Empathy and Gratitude are learnt and developed.

At my son’s school, they have the Friendship Seat; a place where people can go if they are in need of- well, kindness. So, what an ingenious idea; flip it around. I hope that my child is one of those ready to be there for those in need. But he’s only six. He doesn’t always have the awareness to find those in need while he’s catapulting himself down the hill for giggles. But when he does stop and has a spare moment, wouldn’t it be great for him to be ready to help others? He’s got a kind little heart, sure, but how will they know to find him? We unpacked with him though, what this shirt was saying and what it means. He felt proud to have a shirt that said, ‘Hey, I’m here to help. If you need someone, call on me.’ Although I’m sure you couldn’t fit all THAT on a t-shirt. Five simple words say plenty.

When everyone around me seems unhinged, these famous words always seem to pop up somewhere,  “Everyone you meet is a fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always” – Ian McLaren

YOU CAN SIT WITH ME; Is an empowering, inclusive and kind campaign. Such a simple gesture and life-changing message. Imagine a world where everyone was welcome and there were no biases. Children are like sponges absorbing their sense of right and wrong, watching and listening to everything said. They need to hear positive affirmations, they need to hear and see and experience true kindness and empathy to practice it.

So many lessons and conversation here:

⁃ Gender equality

⁃ Cultural prejudice

⁃ Anti-bullying

⁃ Gratitude

Kennedy – Instagram @our.longman.life

Iggy – Instagram @3_little_gentlemen

Elijah – Instagram @elijah_and_mummys_life

Lets work together and empower our children to learn how to practice kindness. Let’s instil positive affirmations and start conversations with our children today.

Rocco and Mia was formerly known as the ‘A-Team’. The brand took on a new name to honour the children of Mariella’s heart. Mariella has branded her little tee business around the concept of community. It takes a village to raise a child. It takes a village to grow a dream and sometimes that dream is being a mum present for her loves. And whilst it may just be a small little business from home, it’s filling big hearts.

Mia, Rocco and Joey – Instagram @roccoandmia

http://www.shoproccoandmia.com

Rocco and Mia are currently on the search for a new rep team. Are you an avid small business supporter? Do you thrive on empowering others? Have a tee fetish? Always wanted to be a part of a sisterhood? Love taking pics of your little beloved? Head over to @roccoandmia on Instagram and apply on the current post.

Much love and always madness

Tink xxx

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